Don’t Judge Me!!
Cause see…the way my faith works is…
Over
the last few days, I’ve gotten a lot of questions about what I think of Oxygen
Networks new “reality show” Preachers of LA.
I previously hadn’t offered an opinion because I hadn’t seen the show
and I don’t like commenting on what I’ve heard. However, what I saw today was a natural human mess!
Allow
me a moment of clarity for any newcomers.
Please understand that this is not your internet trash blog, this is a
platform for the voicing of opinion based on Biblical truths. I’m only here to voice what the bible says,
not to judge Deitrick Haddon or anyone else present on the show. I would like to make some things clear though.
An
episode was previewed, but has not yet aired, in which Deitrick’s fiancé Dominique,
(who he began seeing while still married), has a conversation with her mother about
shacking up with Minister Haddon before they get married. The basis of her argument is her belief that “if
he wasn’t Deitrick Haddon, nobody would care!”
This is both true and ridiculous!
To
start, (#1) you should never base your moral or immoral decisions on the thoughts,
feelings or perceptions of another human.
Romans 3:23 states clearly that ALL have sinned and fallen short of the
glory of God. It is our job as
Christians to live up to our title and strive to be more Christ-LIKE. It is not like Christ to impregnate a woman
while married to another and then seek to move that woman into your home so you
don’t have to suffer the separations tied to being a baby daddy! To ask that anyone feel bad for you because
you cannot wake up to you daughter every morning can in no way be separated
from the fact that you impregnated her mother out of wedlock, but while
standing in the pulpit.
#2. Ending up a baby daddy while you’re still
someone else’s husband, all the while maintaining your position as a gospel musician,
minister, and shepherd is both cause for correction and condemnation. As a minister, Haddon knows well the idea of
repentance and cannot profess to be confused about its meaning, though some
laymen are often unsure.
By
definition, repent means, “to feel such sorrow for sin or fault as to be
disposed to change one’s life”. God said
that if you repent of your sin and turn from it that He is faithful and just to
forgive you thereof. As referenced in
Acts 3:19, “Repent ye therefore, and be
converted, that your sins may be blotted out, when the times of refreshing
shall come from the presence of the Lord”.
The problem is that people are so quick to profess that they’ve repented
and been forgiven when they never really repented!
Haddon offers a soliloquy about how he had filed for
divorce and how he was shunned by believers even though he’d repented and been
forgiven by God. What part of repentance
is looking to move in with your fiancé while still actively shepherding a
flock? The Lord said let the marital bed
be undefiled – how can your marital bed remain pure when you’re not
married?!?! You’re in no better position
than the souls you seek to save, so WHY SHOULD THEY LISTEN TO YOU? That would
be like me counseling young women about Christian behaviors/relationships, and
then going home to lie with an abusive Muslim who shares my bed when he’s not
sharing a bed with other women!
Some
months ago, I wrote a piece titled Christianity a la Carte – a piece that
reminds me to always do a “Me Check” to ensure that I myself am clear of motes
before seeking to point out the motes of others. Deitrick should’ve checked his motes! In 1 Corinthians 9:27 the Apostle Paul warns
against the loss of self in the leadership of others, stating that he beat his
flesh daily, as not to lose his way.
“But I keep
under my body, and bring it into subjection: lest that by any means, when I have
preached to others, I myself
should be cast away.”
How damning and painful it would have to be to lose your way
so much that you would lose your soul while in the business of saving the souls
of others. How painful to rip the spear
from another’s eye while having no regard for the harpoon in your own eye. Though no sin is greater than another,
neither also is one man better than any other.
However, the Lord holds us responsible for that which we know. As a minister, you are expected to know the
Word of God and to follow that word. How
then can you lose your way while preaching the truth? The whole thing reminded me of Kevin Hart’s
standup about not hanging out with athletes…”you see, the way my account works
is…I got a savings and I got a checking…but all my money is in savings”.
I felt like Deitrick Haddon is/was setting himself up to live
his life as a comedy act or some type of gospel circus. Performing ungodly acts
under the excuse of being human, sprouting off foolishness like “Yeah I’m a
preacher, but I’m also a man!” He may as
well have said, “you see…the way my faith works is…I got the gospel I preach…and
this other one I live by!”
His girlfriend was right, if he weren’t Deitrick Haddon, a
lot of people wouldn’t care. The problem
is…HE’S DEITRICK HADDON!! He is a
professed man of faith, active in ministry, singing forth the psalms of God, present
in the public eye. If the bible states
clearly (and I’m sure his says the same thing as mine) that the Father will
hold you accountable for that which you know, and as a minister, you know well
the Word of God, why would you then expect for people not to hold you up to
that barometer of faith and right living?
You see the problem with motes is that the right people never
seek them out. Christians have to be
reminded to search ourselves and check our motes, but the people of the world
search for them daily! They can’t wait
to find something wrong with a Man of God or Woman of God, so they can jump big
about how we’re all hypocrites and our faith is for naught. Why go to church if the Bishop is living just
like the homies…”fa shizzle my nizzle and that ain’t no doggy fizzle”…uhhhhhhhhhhhh
English please!
I
am not here to judge Deitrick Haddon, the Bentley Bishop from Compton or anyone
else on the show, but we must all consider one very valid question – in a world
where our faith is constantly being made a mockery of by the unjust followers
of satan, why then would we seek to add fuel to the fire?
Dear Deitrick,
When you accepted leadership over thousands of human souls
you stopped being a man, and started being a Man of God! You are the person that your parishioners
look to as an example of right living.
So if you turn from that right living and put it on display for anyone
with a cablebox to view…don’t be confused when it’s brought to your attention
for correction. We all have to be
mindful not to make ourselves a spectacle worthy of damnation and the
dysfunctional enjoyment of the world.
And it’s not just him Dominque, it’s you too! Any young lady who sees you singing and then
finds out you got pregnant by a married man is going to have questions.
It DOES NOT MATTER IF YOU’D FILED
FOR DIVORCE AND IT WASN’T FINALIZED!
SEPARATED IS NOT SINGLE AND
ENGAGED IS NOT MARRIED!
Both the laws of God and man are
clear that way.
Follow Me as I Follow God
- @RevealingRuth
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